Gratitude, for Michael, wasn’t simply about manners and nice feelings. After 25 years in prison, gratitude has become part of a larger emotional and spiritual survival strategy.

How do we maintain a sense of trust and confidence that, in the end, “all will be well”, as Julian of Norwich did even in the midst of watching people around her suffer and die from the black plague in the fourteenth century? Is it possible that hope fails us because we misplace the basis of our hope?

The best antidote for “toxic masculinity” is getting together and “blessing the hell” out of each other. It’s not complicated. Simply gather, share our stories, and listen to each other with kindness. Being together in this way helps move us from discouragement to soulful courage.